Why Imperfection is the Rule for Humans
You may suffer from what could be called a ‘perfection complex,’ so much the more if you are an avid media watcher and video game lover, where machine-like perfection is the rule of right behavior.
You may have been forced to be perfect by your early environment, your parents or educators, and this produced feelings of inadequacy. These nasty feelings may block your creativeness. You may be full of potential but that potential is blinded out from your awareness, or is met with resistance.
This pattern may reveal itself in your self-talk. When you face a creative challenge, one voice may say, ‘Yes, I can do it,’ but another may say, ’Yes, I can do it but I am afraid I cannot do it perfectly.’ And still another voice may say, ‘No, I will do it only if I can do it perfectly, but that’s what I am most afraid of.’ So in the regular case, the challenge is postponed or outright avoided.
The reason why this is so is to be found in the workings of your subconscious mind. As the saying goes, the voices we deny will rule us. It is all so simple, really. Humans are feeling-failing beings. They cannot be perfect, but that fact should never keep them away from striving for perfection. It’s the same with ideals. It doesn’t hurt to have ideals, but it hurts when you forget that they are ideals and try to throw them over the head of others, for in such a case you treat ideals as if they were reality. But they are not, which is why they are called ideals—they are creations of your mind. The ideal is good as long as you strive for achieving it, but it becomes destructive once you treat it as reality.
This word may ring in your ears. Reality. What does it mean? Let us inquire what the reality of humanness is. The reality of being a human is to be feeling, and failing. It is a reality where perfection is an ideal, but not reality. This is quite obvious for most people except those who have been forced to be perfect in their years of upbringing, and this coercion has produced fear in them, and resistance.
In a highly technological society, perfectionism may even be patronized as a standard, but it is not a natural standard. Natural cultures that foster self-regulation and ease of expression do not have a problem with perfectionism.
Unfortunately, the compulsive need for perfection is at odds with your emotions, your creativeness, your soul being, and your true humanity. And when emotions are impaired, the whole functioning of the human organism is turned upside down. It was long not understood why perfectionism is so harmful to personal growth. As we got to know more about emotions, and the interaction between mind and emotion, we could better understand that an emotional being cannot be a perfect being. We humans are emotional beings, we are not perfect beings. Otherwise we would be robots.
This simple insight may help you to relax, sit back and enjoy life, and accept all creative challenges with a mindset that considers perfection only as an ideal, and that gives latitude to carefreeness and ease of expression, to the realization of your creative goal without feeling coerced into anything that lies beyond your capabilities. However, creative challenges make you grow and expand your capabilities, so you shouldn’t be definite about your limits.
You can expand them over time, but only if you face your creative challenges—not when you avoid them.