What You Can Learn from Your Inner Child
What is Innocence?
Who Are You?
Points to Ponder
There is no logical way to the discovery of these elemental laws. There is only the way of intuition, which is helped by a feeling for the order lying behind the appearance.
— Albert Einstein
We all know what intuition is, but how many of us are using it deliberately, and for decision-making? We all have at times hunches and monitions, but how many of us are listening to them, let alone incubating them for creative purposes? What is it that got us disconnected from our innate intelligence, and why is our culture not fostering the cultivation of instant intuitive understanding as most native cultures have known it over hundreds and thousands of years?
Most of us assume that intuition is well useful to artists, creators, inventors, designers, monks or saints but hardly to other people, let alone themselves; yet biographies and autobiographies of famous politicians, scientists, noble and ignoble billionaires, and leaders in business and finance abound of examples demonstrating that they listen to the intuitive mind, and note their dreams, use meaningful coincidences for their personal and corporate success, or even apply methods to deliberately incubate intuitive insights and solutions.
Albert Einstein is known to have practiced a simple technique for this purpose; he used to have little naps during the day and rather little sleep during the night.
This allowed him to regularly connect with his subconscious mind for receiving creative inspirations and solutions for his scientific problems and projects.
Besides, Einstein had a highly developed right brain; he was an excellent musician, played the violin and had a strong sense for artistic expression. In daily life he would have been taken as an artist rather than a scientist because of his unconventional and relaxed style.
Einstein was known to have been a brilliant logical mind. His genius is a good example for demonstrating the fact that high intelligence is always the result not of a special skill that is boosted to its limits, but the outcome of the highest possible coordination of the two brain hemispheres.
This intelligence I am talking about is intuition; it is innate wisdom. It is manifesting not through thought but flashes up in the space between thoughts.
This is so because intuition needs inner silence to unfold. Inner silence is indeed paramount for intuitive insights to come up; in addition it is necessary to develop attention to not let those insights and hunches pass unnoticed. Attention in turn requires a basic readiness to receive, which could be called an ‘open-hands attitude.’
Without open hands, literally and metaphorically speaking, we cannot receive. Intuition really is a divine gift; it is what most expresses our divine nature. In other words, intuition is our divine link, our true religio, and that is why it is sacred.
Many general treatises have been written on intuition, and I am not going to paraphrase any of them here. Instead, I am going to focus on some lesser discussed areas, or areas that are discussed within other psychological frameworks. I am expanding in this article on awakening your true innocence, which is the wisdom of your inner child.
In another article I shall outline how to recover and heal your inner child.
Each of these wide fields is a standalone selfhelp guide, but systemically they belong together, as they are complementary units of a unique whole.
It’s almost like a mathematical formula, that could be expressed as ‘innocence plus a healthy creative inner child equals intuition.’
In simpler terms we could say that intuition is the result of an innocent mind in which the inner child functions without obstructions, in creative freedom.
Naturally, because of this structure, I will first expand on innocence in the present article, and what is really means.
To anticipate a bit, I am going to show you a way to get to realize a state of being that I call innocence, and that others call about everything from enlightenment to purity.
I call it innocence because of the sense of this word, which is a term derived from the old Latin innocere, which means ‘doing no harm.’ So the innocent person is the one who does no harm to self and others, no harm to the environment, to the ecology, a person thus, who respects all living, without forcing himself or herself to be so, but as form of simplicity.
Already now, without knowing more about it, you may sense that it must have something to do with spontaneity, the spontaneity you see with small children, and indeed, that is an insight that expresses much of what is going to follow here.
There is really magic in spontaneity, much power and strength, much creativity, too. I do not know any personal characteristic that is superior to true spontaneity, and in that point I am sharing the view of the old Taoist sages who considered spontaneity as the highest form of personal development and spirituality.
Well, to admit it, it has been more than twenty years now that I am familiar with the Taoist teaching and actively practice Zen meditation. Of course, while I do not talk about it here in this book, because it’s not the place for it, it has influenced my own personal development. Without this knowledge and my conviction that this is the way to peace and enlightenment not only for a few sages, but for all of us, I wouldn’t possibly have written this guide.
You may find it unusual, you may even frown upon it, but I am really going to give you a hard time with this first part of the guide; it’s if I had wanted to insert a doorkeeper here, so that only those who make it through will be privileged enough to read the second part.
As the saying goes that the path to heaven is sowed with nails, so the path through this first path of the guide is sowed with questions. So be prepared that you are going to be bombarded, and not with lightweight ammunition!
What is Innocence?
Innocence has different meanings in the mind of different people.
Since times immemorial, innocence was associated with angels and with children. Etymologically innocence comes from the Latin in-nocent which literally means non-harming and thus conveys that the innocent person is one who doesn’t harm others.
Please note an important detail: the subtitle of this article is not Your Way Back To Innocence. This is most important. You may think that as a child you have been innocent and that over time, and with the life experience you got, you gradually lost your innocence. This may be true for some people, yet not for all of us. Therefore, the title of this article is Your Way To Innocence as a new, genuine and original way, and not a way back to something. Behold, there always are and will be children who are not innocent.
I was not innocent as a child. I was burdened with guilt and there was a highly bothering observer talking in myself as a dominant voice almost all the time.
My coming out to innocence took place when I was thirty-three years old. Living in the light and joy that I know today was totally unknown to me when I was young; by the way, this has nothing to do with organized religion, but well with true religio.
I have been raised in a very strict Catholic environment with forced churchgoing and harsh punishment, in homes, while my family was Protestant, and unbelieving.
I would even say that such kind of ‘religious’ upbringing might in lesser strong natures destroy innocence for life and create a general fear of life that is counterproductive to happiness and fulfillment. Such unnatural and coercive forms of education have contributed to the Western world having lost most of the innocence that you can still find in native peoples around the world, especially in tribal cultures that in the West are being considered as primitive. While our culture simply is sadistic.
I guess there are many people like me, who come out of this hell of guilt and self-denial, out of this hell of self-punishment, this hell of ongoing depression and self-hate and who had to strip off the old clothes completely to attain the freedom for inner change and real growth of their souls. The first step, in most cases, as in my case, is to completely abandon any form of organized ritual and any form of belief underlying it! It means to stay with yourself. Because you will see that, once you do that, once you step out of this hypocrisy, you make empty space around you.
All those sweet talkers are suddenly gone. You may feel abandoned, deserted, but clean, breathing fresh air. Then, you get a glimpse of what is purity.
After that, something new will come out of the inner vacuum, which is often unexpected; it starts as a subtle joy when you are alone, a silent wisdom that is deeply touching your heart and soul and that is gradually growing in you.
You then will understand that you are truly and utterly alone!
To be alone is not to be confounded with being lonely. In feeling lonely there is attachment, there is sentimentality, artificiality. Being alone is honest, a clear state of mind, something very powerful. From this genuine aloneness, true creativity, true originality grows out and blooms up.
What most of us know about innocence is some sort of cliché, the affective confusion that results from sentimentality, Sunday afternoon’s animal film, the brave new world of ‘Home Sweet Home.’ Then there are the protectors. They are out to protect life from life. All in the name of innocence. We have to protect our children. There are bad men out there! Our media abound of their ridiculous shouts and poops. Their protective spirit is ignorance which hides a deep need to possess others and to manipulate them.
Are you among them? If yes, please accept this fact and try to see where this need comes from and what fears it defends, for behind this protective spirit is fear, always! True innocence is not protective. It is carefree. The innocent attitude is not defensive, but open. It approaches life with a fresh mind, a mind that knows no harm, and no danger, that therefore is not afraid of danger, of risk.
The confusion that sentimentality creates undermines and corrupts natural innocence bit by bit and, at the end, destroys it entirely. The way shown in this article is to gradually wipe out sentimentality and to replace it with true emotionality. To do this requires a process of de-conditioning. Why de-conditioning?
The modern culture of Westernized industrial societies is based on intrinsically false values or pseudo-values that hide and disregard the true values universally recognized, such as truth in relationships, honesty, care, friendship, and true morality as opposed to fake morality or moralism.
Children are universally considered as innocent beings. However, in Western nations this innocence has been redefined in a way to enslave children under the pretext to protect them from harm.
Disregarding the fact that true innocence effectively protects itself using its own unique defense system, the majority of people concerned to ‘save children’ in the West use emotional and intellectual manipulation, threat and punishment to put children into a tight corselet of rules and regulations that disempowers them and deprives them exactly of the defense system they are pretended to lack.
This false and manipulative attitude towards children lets them grow into adults that crave for protection, that want to be policed and surveyed and that, at the end, fear freedom and autonomy.
However, as the human naturally is programmed for best growing in freedom and autonomy, our cultural overprotection of children results in a life-denying type of education and social conditioning. Most people, once they are grown up, find it impossible to turn the wheel again in the other direction and free themselves from the highly destructive conditioning that thwarted their personal power and impaired their human dignity.
However, for those who really want to develop innocence, there is a way. This way consists in finding back to your original feelings and emotions, the state of mind preceding the conditioning received. There are many ways to achieve this, by rebirthing or other therapeutic methods.
In this article, I do not offer a therapy. Many of you have tried therapies and perhaps have seen that, for some reason or the other, they were not working, or their effect was not lasting. Therapy is a good beginning, but a beginning only. The true therapy is lifelong and probably goes beyond one single life.
This is so because the conditioning, too, goes over many generations, and there is logically little probability that through a magic splash the spell that has been built up during centuries should be wiped away with a few months of therapy. Although I do believe in miracles, I am realistic enough to not promise miracles since, when misunderstood, they so easily lead to disappointment or fatalism.
This guide to realizing innocence is a way to the light that you go by yourself, individually and powerfully. No guru and no god can help you with it. Yet there is help within you, there is guidance all around you and there is more, much more than hope that you will achieve true innocence.
This article gives you some guidelines, not more and not less, to find this unique way within yourself. What I can provide is but a road map for your own unique way toward innocence.
If we try to be innocent, we are more harmful.
As I pointed out already, innocence means to do no harm, but it’s not a willful process. It is not subjected to willful control. It’s spontaneous.
When we try to love, we love less. When we try to be creative, we are less creative. When we try to force our sexual prowess, we are gradually getting impotent. When we try to be hungry because we want to eat something to be polite to the host, we risk to have an indigestion after the meal.
What I want to convey is that there are things in the subtle mechanics of life that we cannot achieve with mere willpower or by forcing things.
Letting go is a principle as valid as doing, as acting.
Chinese wisdom teaches that there are three modes of advancing in life, going forward, going backward and standing still. Most Westerners only consider going forward as a form of advancement disregarding going backward and standing still. Modern Western culture is reductionist in the sense that it has reduced valid forms of behavior to a few accepted ones that, in most cases, are inappropriate and harmful, leading to premature aging, illness, frustration and depression.
The same confusion reigns in matters of innocence. Sentimentality has replaced true innocence, which is not exclusive to children. Adults can as well be innocent, and all our great teachers, saints and sages have demonstrated this truth by their own way of living.
On the other hand, as I mentioned already, children are not automatically innocent as many believe, but they can do harm, for example when they are treated without respect and dignity.
Innocence, then, could be defined as a natural state of peace and harmony with all-that-is, rather than an idea to be set in place at will.
There are certain conditions for innocence to unfold. The following paragraphs deal with the description of those conditions and show practical ways to set them up in your life.
You cannot be innocent as long as you treat children in a false, sentimental way, disregarding their right for truth, and their need for freedom which is first of all freedom from being manipulated. This is so because the way you treat children is the way you treat your inner child, the child within you. If you manipulate children, you manipulate your inner child. When you are dishonest with a part in yourself, you are dishonest with yourself.
The inner child is the part of you that is associated with your creative wishes, your potential for creation. It is therefore a very important part of us.
Manipulating children is unfortunately the common rule in Western society in which the value system requires children to be easy, obedient, rational and nonsexual. Most Westerners do not understand this mechanism which is the fruit of a combination of the industrial age and puritanical child-rearing.
Since about the second half of the seventeenth century, in Western culture, children tend to be regarded inferior, as they are considered unfit to comprehend the totality of life, especially when basic life functions, birth, reproduction and death are concerned. They are told lies about life and punished or reprehended if they engage in games that put birth and death on stage. This value system is such that it permits only artificial knowledge about life veiling most of the truth about all essential functions of living.
This leads to a situation where most young people, after having lived through a highly artificial childhood, at the end of their adolescence or in young adulthood more or less painfully, if not frightfully, face the facts of life, often in solitude and isolation and without the support of the peer group or the parents or teachers.
To make it worse, those in charge of educating children, who foster a truthful approach often are suspected to have illegal relationships with the children in their care; this in turn leads to a distortion of the educational relationships as it induces apprehension and strife even for educators who are fully acting within the law.
This system boils down to favoring oppression and totalitarian forms of government, because, in its very root, it is deeply freedom-hostile! That is why this conditioning leads to war, destruction and animosity among human beings, sows stress and conflict and reduces considerably the life-span by preparing the destructive emotional conditions for depression, drug dependence, infertility as well as for deadly diseases such as cancer, heart disease or aids.
There are many expensive treatments and empowerment programs, but they all fail if we are not able to connect with our inner child. This can be done only if the truth regarding the basic facts of life, birth, sexuality and death, is faced and integrated. One of the reasons for our growing death rates from purely functional diseases and a wide range of the population suffering from recurring depressions, as well as our high crime and domestic violence statistics has its reason in our denial to raise our children in truth and honesty.
If you wish to get out of the violence hangup that is the result of the control-obsessed, unnatural and life-denying education you received, you need to engage in serious and in most cases ongoing work over years, if not a lifetime. To establish truth in our life, we need to work on both the inside and the outside levels.
Before I begin to write about the inner work needed, I would like to mention one essential change needed at the outside level. It concerns our relating to children. You will find it very difficult to be relaxed, open and honest with children if you have been reared as a fearful child that was manipulated and denied to know the fundamentals of life.
Inner work alone cannot change the distorted emotional setup. The outer work needed consists in relating to children differently, in approaching them from a perspective that is probably, at this point, both culturally and politically not correct, and that for that reason has to be considered as alternative.
Living in South-East Asia since almost two decades, one of my preferred leisure activities is to observe the behavior of Western tourists or business people, and compare that attitude with the attitude of the locals.
I find that Western people do not relate to their children in a natural, relaxed, nonviolent and truthful way. It is always the same scenario with aggressive, stressed relations, lies, tears, children who rebel, who are desperate in some way, angry parents that punish and later on regret — utter stupidity.
They appear like robots, like automatons in their strong conditioning that they never questioned and that is strangely alienated from the relaxed soft tenderness that is the natural condition between human beings who love and care for each other. Before, I never knew this for sure since this kind of knowledge is hermetic in Western countries. Now I know that it is the normal way of life to be soft, to be understanding, to be balanced. Before I could only guess and my intuition told me what is true and what is false, until finally I was here and could see with my own eyes.
There is a necessity for you to experience this painful awareness one day, this awareness that you have been cheated, very badly and very meanly cheated by your early environment, by a perverted, sick, paranoid society that has centuries of moral terror, hate, persecution and murder on its back, as it killed and tortured innumerable people simply for being natural.
If you do not want to see that, if you cannot stand it, if you are not able to reject it completely and with all your energy, if you do not attack it, or if you fear any bad consequences in realizing the truth in your life, you will not be able to achieve innocence and you better give up right now and continue your lush artificial second hand life that you share with nine tenth of the world population!
However, if you wish truth with all your heart and soul, you will possess the necessary energy and you will realize your dream of achieving innocence.
Children can help you tremendously on this way to install new life in your inner child which is your creativity and inventiveness.
Dealing with children honestly and listening to them without resistance opens the way to your own self and your own innocence. It seems illogical to begin with this work at the outside level and not through inner work.
However, from my own experience I know that the other way around is much harder to go and often ends up in an arrogant retreat from life and some sectarian philosophy that does but serve the own ego.
Changing your relationship with children requires the following practical tasks:
- Learn to listen to children without fixed opinions about things and about life;
- Learn to take children serious, as persons at the same level as adults;
- Learn to be honest to children, always, and see the cruelty in telling lies to them;
- Learn to contradict people who come up with stereotype formulas of child protection;
- Learn to comprehend that it is a form of slavery to inflict on children things or behavior standards in the name of their own best;
- Learn to see the psychological reality that every protection is a subtle form of slavery;
- Learn to admit to children your own ignorance instead of pretending your superiority;
- Learn to understand your own perversity which is based on obedience and shutting up;
- Learn to see to what point mainstream education is perverting the human nature;
I will now walk you step by step through this little task list and explain you the different daily tasks you have to carry out to get to realizing true innocence.
Learn to listen to children without set opinions about things or about life
What does it mean to listen without prejudice? Most adults, when around children, take on an attitude of what I would call smiling superiority. This attitude consists in faking to know better, especially when vital life functions are concerned, to know almost everything through their wealth of experience whereas the poor child, lacking such experience, must feel idiotic and inadequate.
I observed that these adults are insecure themselves, and it is their lacking true knowledge about life that makes them use superiority as a defensive shield when facing a child. The set opinions those people maintain serve as a defense in the view of the total openness of children and their inquisitive mind. Such adults need to hide behind their façade of superiority for defending their fear of being one day exposed in their ignorance by some simple and true questions of a child.
If you want to be different from such people, and they are unfortunately the majority in modern international consumer culture, begin with listening to the child instead of coming up with your own little views and opinions.
Absorbing the world and perceiving it for a moment like a child will sensibilize your mind to the much higher perception quality of the child, a perception quality which I use to call direct perception. Children by nature have the gift of a direct perception of reality.
This means they perceive stimuli without distorting their meaning through intellectual concepts. When an impulse hits their perception interface, children react instantly, without thought interfering in the process. This results in children being more intelligent than most adults because direct perception is the direct contact with truth that comes about spontaneously and telepathically as it shortcuts the rational and limited mind; it is always holistic.
Knowing that, you should actually be holding back with your set opinions when talking with children, especially children below six years of age. Once you have learnt to practice this with children, you will automatically practice it with adults as well. This, in turn, will make truly a difference in your life. You will be considered a wise person.
Wisdom really is not accumulated knowledge, nor endless opinions about this and that, but direct perception of truth. Children teach us that life is not opinions, not things we judge right or wrong. They teach us the perennial wisdom that is non-moralistic and functional. It is the functional thinking that is behind the mysterious intricacies of natural, and holistic, interconnectedness.
This is not a mystic view of the world. It only seems to be mystic because of ignorance, but the ignorance definitely is on the side of the grown-ups.
Children are by no means ignorant. They are wistful and we can only learn from them. They, in turn, learn a little bit from us, and that’s about all we can give them. There is thus absolutely no reason to feel superior when together with children.
Learn to take children serious, as total humans
This is easily said but not easily done. There is much talk about respecting children, especially within the hypocrite and somewhat paranoid public discussion about child abuse, but in reality children are very little respected in Western and international consumer culture.
Years of living and working in developing countries, and especially with native peoples have shown me that our Western tradition is quite far from truly understanding what it means to respect children, to love them without rendering them dependent and fragile, to honor them without treating them like spoilt and somewhat perverted kings and queens.
In developing countries, especially in Thailand, Indonesia and Cambodia, I have learnt from observing local people what it means to respect children and what it means not to respect them. It became clear to me that what is done in today’s international consumer culture is really putting things upside down completely with the effect to infantilize children and to impair their genuine response-ability (responsibility).
The present run for liberalization is a ridiculous façade where the old ghosts of tyranny and oppression play hide-and-seek. The oppressors have changed their names and titles, while the oppression remained. They seek:
- to exploit children instead of helping them;
- to enslave children instead of respecting their freedom;
- to endanger children emotionally through tactile neglect;
- to render children handicapped emotionally and sexually;
- to destroy children’s love capacity;
- to render children apathetic instead of enthusiastic.
Today they have the brands of multinationals, previously the names of religious or state institutions. The industry today robotizes the new generations that previously grew up with similar handicaps and scars resulting from a less subtle form of manipulation.
The result is the same indoctrinated youth that is molded into standard values, standard education, standard behavior patterns, and standard stupidity.
What about the different ones, those who do not comply? They are quickly put in quarantine. There are child prisons called educational institutions or correction homes where blunt violence reigns that is organized by the same government institutions that in the evening show spread their sentimental stories about the need to protect children from the cruelties that so-called strangers or pedophiles inflict upon them.
The tactics is clear. Instead of dealing with the problems that the system itself creates, a scapegoat group is blamed responsible for the mess and put in the spotlight. And this works, the great bastard public agrees, and finds we need more prisons and tougher laws and police rules, not asking the pertinent questions.
There is one question namely that stands out and that is clearly answered by forensic and criminological research. Children are not abused by strangers in the regular cases, but by members of their own family, and friends of the family, thus by persons who are familiar with the child. And yet this research is relegated to libraries and books like some of my own ones on the topic, and the mass media never mention them.
It is sad to see that such easy hide-and-seek games are still manipulating millions of individuals who are unwilling to get the real information and to form real opinions. We do not need the power of an oppressing Church any longer. The modern state and its system-conform experts dispose of more subtle and much more effective means of manipulating the mindsets of millions of credulous citizens than any of the old dictators could ever have achieved it with mere oppression and control. Under the header of consumer information is hidden an arsenal of psychological warfare that is carefully studied and applied to brainwash the masses to get them ready for total consumption without reflection.
This system, because it is subtle and hidden, only works because it begins in the cradle. The small child is target number one because the effectiveness of subtle conditioning depends on time. To consume, children must be trained to not have pleasure with their own bodies so that they can be gradually conditioned upon ersatz objects, so-called toys, that later are in turn replaced by consumer goods.
This is the primary conditioning. A native child from a tribe somewhere in Brazil, a child that is free to have pleasure with the body, a child that can enjoy sexual games with comrades, such a child would not crave for a sparkling black soup sold in blood-red cans around the world or the latest junk snack with ultimate Strawberry taste.
Children, whose emotional lives have been buried under a swarm of contradictory and manipulative messages are ready to be bombarded with object-focused pleasure messages. Children who have been trained to not play with their body parts are ready to accept plastic toys. Then, eventually, the system runs and profits are made.
Our children innocently pay the bill; they pay with their emotional lives! It truly is a murder culture as it is based on the murder of children’s emotional lives and the emosexual castration of young people in the name of ‘their own best.’ The ultimate results are emotional death in form of cancer, immune deficiency syndrome, heart disease and the other lifestyle diseases that are rather manipulation diseases.
Once you can see the utter destructiveness of this dangerous system, you are ready to abandon your sentimental and distorted opinions about children being nonsexual or asexual; then you can move ahead to a position where you see the child as equal, and not as a representative of a different, and much inferior, race.
Learn to be honest to children and see the cruelty in telling lies to them
Many parents and teachers find it absolutely normal to tell children lies about the origins of life, in general, and body pleasure, sexuality and procreation, in particular.
Psychologists and journalists tell us that much has changed in this respect within the last fifty years, but for the critical observer, it rather seems that the contrary is true. In the United States, the greatest wave of Puritanism is currently seen since Victorian times. The public debate is distorted and false to such a degree that a serious scientist from Europe, Asia or Latin America should in my opinion refuse to talk in public, in the United States of America, about such sensitive daily issues as missing children, child killing, child rape, child abuse or child pornography, America’s favorite leisure gossip.
When a society, as a whole, is to such extent violently denying truthful dialogue, science cannot help much to inform the public. Statistically speaking, you have to see the simple fact that science in the United States means that more than seventy percent of all scientists work for the military!
However, you cannot force this innocence, you cannot bring it about deliberately. Lies are the most subtle things in the world. One covers up the other. The first lie is almost undetectable, and the following lies cover and justify the first. If you are not really attentive to what freedom means for you, you cannot stand for truthful relations with children.
You have to make your own choices first. If you choose to live in a police state, you cannot tell me that from the start you wanted to be honest with your children.
Learn to contradict people who come up with stereotype formulas of child protection
The child protection industry is a global money making machine originating from the United States of America that is currently being exported all over the world.
The American government spends every year millions of dollars to generously fund this movement which is mainly composed of Christian fundamentalists, world puritans, negative thinkers, old virgins, cunning business people, sadists, opportunists and victims of so-called child sexual abuse.
They go out to make the world safer and better, crusade and lead ‘holy wars’ against drugs, abusers, perpetrators and generally against all sinful desires, prostitution and other vices, campaign for more control, more police, more military, more repression, more restriction and less democracy.
Talking with these people, one gets the impression that they suffer from narcissistic inversion and want to transform children into clones of themselves, robotic beings without sexual identity and without a critical mind. These people would violently defend American values, and the industry profits from their zealous hypocrisy.
The toy fabrication industry in the United States is mostly located in Mexico. The toys are made by children, Mexican children, through child labor that would be considered in the USA as illegal child exploitation.
Interestingly enough, the child protection industry in the US has no interest to gloriously save Mexican children as long as American children are not involved in this kind of slave work; it is okay to enslave others as long as it is not the nation’s offspring. What we face here is exactly the Biblical in-group versus out-group thinking that pervades patriarchy.
This simple fact suffices to prove the utter hypocrisy and falseness of this movement; their sentimental gossip cannot touch a serious person with a non-paranoid mindset.
It is really not difficult to contradict these people, although it is true that they seem very tough, very self-assured, very integral and concerned.
Not many people have the clarity to radically and spontaneously dismantle their absurd lies and pretensions, simply because they lack the basic information and go with the smear they get everyday from the mass media.
This is, then, where your critical mind comes in, or should come in so that you can see where the truth is.
You can only contradict those people if you know the facts! But how can you know the facts within a deeply manipulative system where every fact is evaluated within the frame of reference of the system? Every information you get about these sensitive topics is filtered and regarded under the spot of set opinions and so-called scientific evidence which is even more manipulative than moralistic judgments and opinions.
As even lay people know in the meantime through the revolutionary insights of quantum physics and systems theory, there is nothing objective in science since every experiment is set up according to the experimenter’s set opinions and values. Especially if you consider the fact that about three thirds of all scientists in the USA work for the military, you cannot seriously expect evidence being produced and published that contradicts the mainstream opinions and ideologies regarding children and love with children.
Only through contacting alternative groups or individuals like myself who can tell you about the other side of the moon, you can eventually form your own balanced opinion about sensitive subjects and topics of public discussion. Most people don’t ever do that. It is regarded almost a sin to watch over the walls of the prison that holds one’s accepted and cherished value system, and this so much the more when this system is the official way of looking at things.
It is certainly uncomfortable to question oneself and one’s opinions and convictions. It may change one’s mindset forever. It may even blow up some relationships that, after retrospection with a different mindset prove to have been dishonest, sentimental, false or disruptive.
Psychologically, it is easy to understand why we are so reluctant to get this information from beyond the fence. As Thoreau points out in his daring book Civil Disobedience, one of the basic choices for us to make in life is to either remain obedient children or become disobedient adults. An obedient child does not make much damage as it does not have much power.
Every obedient adult however is a potential Hitler. Civil disobedience is not only a vital ingredient of true democracy, but also its trial.
Where a system smashes it, it proves that it has never been a democracy, even though it may have the best constitution of the world.
If you consider yourself being an intellectual or an enlightened human striving for maintaining and developing democratic values, you are called upon questioning the status quo and looking beyond the fence of our limited opinions.
Contradicting people is not easy. It requires inner peace, the deep respect of others and their opinions at the outset, but equally determination. It requires information, too. This information can, as already mentioned, come from beyond the fence, or it can be the result of your own observations and experiences. Both sources of information are valuable.
Learn about the tortures that are inflicted upon children in the name of their own best
Your comprehension of the child’s submission to violence in a violent society must not just be intellectual, but coming from your hea(r)t, yes, your heat, your hot emotions, your true compassion. In a patriarchal society with paternalistic values, it is very common that people think they know better when it concerns the affairs of others than their own affairs.
The world would be in much of a better state if people cared essentially for themselves instead of putting their noses in the affairs of others.
This is not only so regarding children, but also in the therapeutic setting, in spiritual counseling and even in the couple.
This attitude is deeply distorted since it shows disrespect for the wisdom of the other or intends to substitute one life experience by another.
Moreover, there is a silent spying-the-other-out attitude behind this form of behavior. When it concerns children, this attitude gets into extremes and then is to be called, as many psychiatrists agree, a persecutory attitude. In the name of children’s own best, the greatest tortures are inflicted upon them.
When you go through their research on child abuse for the first time, you may be shocked to learn to what extent over the course of human patriarchal history children have been used as poison containers and lightning catchers for the problems and the hangups of their parents and educators.
Learn to see the deeper psychological reasons for violence
There are historic, economic, social and cultural reasons that justify and require the maintenance of a manipulative system of conditioning that prevents people from knowing the truth about —
- their origins;
- their emotional and sexual identity;
- their individual spiritual destiny;
- life and death and the circle of lives;
- the truth about life, death and sexuality;
- the intrinsic need for pleasure in the human;
- tactile pleasure, joy and ecstasy with children.
Our postmodern consumer culture that is exported all over the world is deeply alienated from nature. The natural wisdom that integrates the truth about all matters that are life-essential has been cut off from the standard knowledge of the common man, to remain reserved for an elite of sages, ecclesiastics and esoteric healers that are either feared and persecuted, or venerated like half-gods.
The truth is that this knowledge is available for every serious and interested human being. I would even say that it is the duty of any living creature to find the maximum amount of information about these life-essential matters for advancing in their evolution.
And yet, since centuries this knowledge of spiritual truth has been condemned and those who knew the essential lessons that life teaches us were persecuted and put to death by ignorant and power-hungry leaders of major ideologies or majoritarian governments that found this knowledge dangerous in the hands of an enlightened religious, racial or political minority.
There has never been a period in human history since the beginning of patriarchy around five thousand years ago where a majority of human beings possessed the essential knowledge about life and used it for evolutionary purposes.
Nobody can do that inner work for you and nobody other than you is responsible if you refuse doing it and prefer to remain caught and annihilated in a system of pseudo-truths that keeps you away from understanding the true meaning of life and living.
Learn to admit your ignorance instead of pretending your superiority
Exhibiting an attitude of ‘superiority’ generally is a defense and hides inner doubt and emotional or intellectual insecurity. As long as you play the Superman or the Superwoman in front of your or other children, you remain a shell without content and children will never really develop a confident and trustful attitude toward you. Yet this attitude of superiority is the prevailing one in the Western culture. It is part of the hero cult that puts the parent and the teacher, as the main oppressors of modern childhood, on a pedestal of veneration. The true dominator of childhood and child conditioning is the modern state.
The federal government of the United States has almost absolute power over parents and teachers and can at any moment take the following measures:
- Put a parent or teacher in prison on mere hearsay, without prima facie evidence, for so-called child molesting;
- Take away a child from his or her parents from one day to the other to put it in an institution where the child is violently mistreated for his own best or forced into psychiatric or drug treatment;
- Search a house or office without any evidence if only a child molestation issue was alleged by anybody in front of a state or federal authority;
- Disrupt a whole neighborhood through the sudden and noisy appearance of dozens of highly armed police officers if only a teacher or parent has been slandered by a malevolent neighbor or friend to be a child molester or in possession of what is labeled child pornography.
Considering this reality, it is almost ridiculous to continue speaking about constitutional rights or free speech or any other of the ingredients of the Magna Carta as far as the United States is concerned. Facing such a state of affairs, one can hardly imagine the fear children are experiencing from early age within such a system! This fear is projected upon the parent and the teacher, the supreme figures of authority.
At the same time, children, from a certain age, understand the dominant power of the system and the fears and constant anxiety of their insecure parents and teachers become theirs. The results of that oppression system are individually different. Some children turn out to be depressive, others violent, others sexually premature with an obvious tendency to receive gratification through emotional or sexual prostitution.
The solution of this dilemma can only come through a painstakingly truthful attitude towards children from the side of the adults that care for them, parents and teachers.
Talking openly, yet peacefully and without resentment or blame about the culture and its various aspects, triggers a truthful and attentive attitude in children. Taking time to explain social or moral rules without hiding essential facts and without putting the child into the position of the idiot gains the children’s long-term respect.
Admitting ignorance is not a sign of stupidity nor of weakness, but of intelligence and strength. This insight however is completely against the hero cult and unveils its fake idea of so-called human perfection.
Children who have parents and teachers that can admit ignorance, are strong and able to admit their own ignorance. This namely enables them to grow from where they truly are, and not from an illusion. As human beings, we are and remain ignorant however knowledgeable we are.
The hero cult is defeating true humanity by its pretension that there was human perfection, and even more so, that there was human perfection through compliance with sentimental moral values that have no foundation in the nature of man.
Learn to understand your own perversity that comes from obedience and shutting up
Every system, educational, social or political that is based on blind obedience creates perversion. Every system that transforms the taboo which is primarily a do-taboo into a talk-taboo creates perversion. Every system where free expression is impeded creates violence as a verbal expression substitute.
Lack of communication is present in every single act of violence, be it violence in the home or in official forms such as wars, torture or social, political or racial persecution.
If you remain in a state of criticism that is projected on others or the system only, you miss the essential goal of your self-development which is to criticize yourself and your own lack of civil disobedience.
You do not need to be a hero in front of your children or your pupils in order to gain their respect and their love. Children expect something entirely different: in first instance truth and in second instance openness and communication.
If you shut up at every occasion, hiding your own opinions, you can hardly raise truthful communicative children. This is obvious. On the other hand, we are not perfect and many of us have their fears to fail in the career system or to fall back on the ladder of social gratifications. Should we wait with having children or working with children until we are perfect, until the last of our fears is cleaned by psychoanalysis or meditation?
To require this would be foolish and completely unreal.
The only way to deal honestly with children, and with our inner child, is to admit our imperfection and to grow from there into a less conflicted inner and outer life.
It is obvious, and was obvious all over patriarchal history, that society uses certain groups today as targets and scapegoats for veiling its own level of perversion. In a perverted society, the socially despised becomes automatically the target for attack and at the same time the plate on which all is collected that does not fit in the reductionist system of accepted values.
To proceed like the majority and to defend one’s own perverted worldview with projections onto others represents an archaic form of behavior and has been dismantled and attacked already by Jesus of Nazareth.
Perversion can be healed only through dialogue and open exchange. You will become aware of all your distorted opinions once you freely and openly exchange with children, without being caught in your own system of beliefs, but by trying to see the world, at least for a moment, through the eyes of the child you are communicating with.
Learn to see to what degree mainstream education is perverting the human nature
Mainstream education is based on a value system that only contains material values because spiritual values have been cut off from it. They have been replaced with beliefs.
True spirituality is not belief. Religion is not an organized system of power and oppression. Threatening people with eternal punishment is definitely not spiritual. Churches and mosques are not built for dragging down the human spirit into fear and slavery.
For you to understand this at a deeper level, let me first introduce the idea of direct perception. What is direct perception? Direct perception is the primary mode of learning that nature applies in evolution. Direct perception is the mode the human brain uses to receive and store information in its capacity as a passively organizing system.
The child learns his or her first language through direct perception, the picking-up of whole patterns, not through the separative learning process that is at the basis of mainstream education, i.e. rational, reductionist learning, but by the integrative and associative mode of the right brain.
Obedience and imitation are not the appropriate means to develop the human potential. In fact, man has not developed the most precious part of himself, his direct perception of truth, and therefore civilization can only function on an outside or superficial level, but not as a motor of integrating man into a truly functional power unit that is operating on all levels at once.
Historically, the turn of events happened with the introduction of school systems. If we take Europe as an example, why and how schools came up? In the Middle Ages, when the Church tried to gain as much power over people as possible and indulged in human rights abuses of all kinds, monks and nuns opened the first schools. These schools were recruitment centers for the monasteries. From the beginning, boys and girls were separated in different schools. From the boys’ classes, the monks were recruited, from the girls’ schools the nuns.
When you read history books, the Church is usually cited as the great benefactor of humanity in implementing the school system. However, the Church’s intention was nothing but an effort to sustain the power of its own worldly hierarchy and oppression paradigm, and second, and most importantly, direct perception of truth was going to be wiped out from civilization from that point in history.
Before that time, children were raised by their parents and the other adults present in the extended family. They learned primarily by observation, by directly picking up what they needed for their later career, from their early environment. This system was limited, too, since children usually could only learn what their own father did, so that the son had to walk in the footsteps of the father as it was the tradition.
It is interesting to remember, in this context, that early language learning takes place in exactly the same way. The young child picks up whole patterns from the language spoken around him or her.
Recent research has made it clear that this kind of learning is the only one that truly is holistic and adapted to the passively organizing intelligence of the human brain; in this quality, then, it is better than any system that has so far been implemented in schools.
We all know that human beings generally learn their first language, or mother tongue, perfectly whereas they cripple along learning a second or third language later in school or at college.
The mainstream educational system has put all this natural intelligent system upside down in forcing children to learn with their left brain hemisphere only, cutting off the highly necessary mode of synthesis the right brain hemisphere provides.
Instead of understanding nature, man has tried arrogantly to replace the natural intelligence through very limited and reductionist concepts that are based upon moralistic dogmas instead of functional and intelligent strategies. The world followed Aristotle, not Heraclitus, Confucius, not Lao-tzu.
Without seeing the whole of this highly destructive and archaic system, you will never understand why there is so much violence among the human race, why there is so much stupidity, misunderstanding, hatred, war and destruction in our world, even today, at the onset of the 21st century and our entering into the Aquarius Age.
I go as far as saying that without understanding education and the wrong turn it has taken since centuries, the role of education and the sins the human race has committed toward the necessity of rearing children holistically and intelligently, you will never truly understand life.
Who are You?
You can never reach innocence without knowing who you are.
You may argue that children, too, are innocent, but do not really know or not yet know who they are. However, this is not entirely true. In a way, genuinely innocent children intuitively know who they are.
They know it from another source. They know it from beyond birth, from the spiritual world they are coming from. They have a vague or precise memory of the time and space continuum they were living in before being born to this world and the holistic vision they brought with them when they incarnated.
Not all children perhaps, but the highly evolved souls definitely do have that intuitive memory. The problem is that later, through the educational machinery they are subjected to, most children and adolescents forget this primary vision. It will be lost for their lifetime if they do not act about getting it back.
What to do? What is the key for this lost treasure? The key is meditation and working on your soul level, getting you in touch with you higher self or inner guide, your inner landscape as I use to call it, and thus establish an inner dialogue. There is a technique of dialoguing with your inner selves, the entities, parts or energies that form the whole of your personality.
Please follow the steps below to gradually learn the wisdom of dialoging with inside. I will try to anticipate questions you may have regarding this unusual technique of being your own interlocutor. I have listed questions I have received from coaching clients and will answer them one by one.
Is it silly or crazy to talk with oneself? Is it even perhaps paranoid?
It is not silly but very healthy to dialogue with your inner selves. Yet it all depends how this dialogue is being effected. If it just consists of blaming yourself or making you down in front of yourself, it is not going to enhance your personal evolution but will block the blossoming up of your individual talents. If however this dialogue is positive and constructive, it will greatly foster your personal creativity and development.
By the way, it is true that paranoid people listen to imaginary voices and that these voices are split-off personified energies of their own mindbody continuum. It is equally true that in the case of paranoia, the split of the personality or the ego is so deep that there is no more control over the various voices or psychic energies.
By contrast, in the healthy psyche such control is constantly maintained by the conscious ego. This has two consequences. First, it is true that the healthy psyche is composed of a number of personalities. Every psyche, healthy or unhealthy, functions as an ensemble of different energies that are fusioned into one ego and that are nourished by the supreme energy of the higher self. The more energies the psyche is composed of, the more creative, the more genially gifted is the person. So-called multiple personalities are not pathological exceptions, but the highest possible evolution of a human psyche. All true geniuses are multiple personalities.
For reaching that high level of creativity it is possible with some tools to transform you into a multiple personality.
The inner dialogue serves to prepare this process through getting the different part selves to communicate with one another in a healthy manner, controlled by the ego and, of course ultimately by the higher self.
Thus, the fundamental difference between a highly creative or genius and a paranoid person is the control the healthy person can maintain over the different parts or energies of the psyche, whereas the paranoid person has completely lost such control.
You guess right when you note that since I distinguish between ego and self, or higher self, there must be a difference between the two terms.
As a matter of fact, the ego and the self are not the same.
To explain this, let me begin with the larger term, the self, which is your ultimate consciousness, your guide or life guide, your higher voice of wisdom, your connection with the cosmic creator force.
The ego is the smaller version of it, the conditioned self that mainly is concerned with survival and the maintenance of all basic life functions. Contrary to ‘spiritual’ coaches, I maintain the conviction that the ego is necessary to the healthy functioning of the psyche because it has stored experience about the social code and the nature of society, something the self is absolutely not concerned with.
Following only your self, you would never care about social conventions, norms, rules or customs and be a defender of total and, so to say, ‘ruthless’ individuality. While this makes sense, it does not help to bring about flexible adaptation to society and without flexible adaptation you will be an outlaw or fundamentalist guru, or even a terrorist.
If you find this too extreme a position, you may want to accept the controller function of your ego that is concerned with integrating your total difference to make for a relative difference. This relative difference is the bridge between you as a unique being, within a soup of unique beings that intently unite for distilling a still more unique kind of soup.
Is it really safe to engage in this dialogue without a psychiatrist at my side?
The inner dialogue is a safe way of getting in touch with your inner selves and the different part personalities it is composed of. You can engage in it without the standby of a psychiatrist if you follow the instructions in this book or any other of my books.
However, it is not advised to use alcoholic drinks or any kind of drugs for this work. You can safely drink your glass of beer or wine with lunch and dinner but I disadvise strong alcohol such as whiskey, gin, brandy, liquor and alike during the whole period you are going to work with the inner dialogue.
It is equally dangerous to ingest during this time any kind of synthetic pharmaceutical drug, be it antidepressants, tranquillizers, valium or hard drugs during this experience. This would mean to endanger the integrity of your psyche since the inner dialogue really results in a lowering of psycho-energetic blockages and establishes a new dynamic energetic balance within your psyche.
The use of drugs could have a chaotic and unpredictable effect during this process and is therefore dangerous and irresponsible during this experience. On the other hand, it is true that organic psychedelic drugs may favor the experience but the problem is that you never really know how the trip is going to be like.
To avoid a disaster, be wise and accept to have a slower pace in your work. It is possible that psychedelics or LSD highly contribute to your spiritual progress, but they can equally throw you into a hellish abyss.
How can you know in advance? As everybody reacts differently as a result of biochemistry and different psychic content, there are no general answers and you will not find an answer to this question in any book.
Please note that Terence McKenna, one of the toughest researchers in psychedelics and mushroom-induced wisdom, died of frontal lobe cancer, a very unique and rare form of cancer, the cancer of what in esoteric sciences is called the third eye, the organ for telepathy and precognition.
This triggers intriguing questions. How can somebody who devoted his life to the exploration of the functions of intuition by researching into intuitive wisdom, become the victim of a deadly malfunctioning of the very organ of intuitive perception?
In my personal view, this depressing human experience teaches that we should use the biological functions of our own organism instead of ingesting alien organisms like psychedelic mushrooms, that admittedly may have a higher evolutionary wisdom level than the human race, but that are in last resort damaging our organism.
Even if you find, for example in an autobiography, that somebody else went through the same experience, you cannot simply apply this life experience to yourself because you are different. You are ultimately different and eternally alien compared to another human.
Then, when you accept this truth, you logically ask what you should do and follow, and I must repeat myself saying that your higher self will tell you — and not a Terence McKenna, and not a Krishnamurti, Maharshi, Osho, Sai Baba, nor any other mind guru or saint. The only saint for you to respect is you.
You are sane. Your are a saint, by nature. There is nothing to improve in or about you, but many of you have forgotten your higher destiny and working with your selves creates the true religio our religions speak about but that they have drowned in endless rituals and meaningless and ineffective dogmas.
Is it possible that during the practice of the inner dialogue unusual spiritual or psychic phenomena occur?
Yes, this is possible. Especially when you practice the inner dialogue in combination with spontaneous art as I myself did it years ago.
However, if you respect the rules, there is no risk. If you have a heart problem, I disadvise you to engage in this work before having consulted your physician and having received his positive approval.
This is true for any other major health problem you may have. In those cases, you should consult your physician or a psychiatrist before starting to work on your psychic energies. My advice in this book is addressed to healthy and psychically balanced individuals only.
Can the inner dialogue act counter to concentration or sleep problems?
Yes, among the most remarkable and quite sudden results of working with the inner dialogue are an improvement of concentration, improvement of sleep (with high dream activity), and generally a more relaxed way to live and to handle personal challenges.
In what way does the inner dialogue contribute to knowing oneself?
All self-knowledge comes about through communication. The most direct form of communication is the one between the inner psychic entities.
It can be called primary communication and is the most archaic form of communication. It is also the most powerful form of communication.
The better you communicate with yourself, the better you communicate with others. Self-knowledge is dependent on the ability to communicate with the whole of your body-mind-soul continuum.
Self-knowledge is not the fruit of intellectual reasoning or rational thought processes. Intuition and insights play however an important role in gaining self-knowledge.
Self-knowledge is an illusion if the true motives behind the communication process remain hidden. This means that you have to be clear, before you begin, about your motives for engaging with voice dialogue.
Is it only for fun or showing off within your circle of friends, or is it really for gaining self-knowledge? If the latter is the case, you have a truly religious motivation and in this case, the work will definitely enhance your self-knowledge and expand your personality beyond the limits it is confined to.
Is it difficult to learn this technique? How much time will be needed to learn the basics? Do I need to practice much for achieving results? Are the results durable?
I have experienced the inner dialogue as something easy to practice. After about six months of practice, such an explosion of creativity took place that I am still busy, twenty years after that time, to realize the whole lot of inventions, intuitions, ideas and projects that came up during those six months.
I just have no time left to practice the inner dialogue any further because I am full-time engaged with the realization of my various art forms, music, literary, design and commercial projects, and with facilitating others who are on a similar track.
There is no doubt that, for me, the experience of practicing the inner dialogue was highly rewarding and incomparable to anything I formerly did or tried in my whole life.
However, I must admit that I combined the technique with a hypnotherapy and positive affirmations and became a complete vegetarian which amplified and multiplied the benefits I reaped with the inner dialogue.
Is it good and favorable to combine the inner dialogue with spontaneous art?
Yes, this is recommended and will positively feedback upon your results. The two techniques are mutually enhancing each other; complementary at a high level, bringing about synchronicity.
However, as with all in life, excesses should be avoided to not attract and invite unwanted spirits who become curious in your experiments and would like to fool you or scare you off.
If that happens, be humble and compassionate with those poor entities that often do not want to harm you.
The best is to pray for the release of spirits, for their liberation from the earth energies so that they can move on to the dimensions they are destined to live in.
Most of them are not aware of what happened to them after death; they ignore that life goes on and do not know that there are many other dimensions to explore.
Some of them, especially when they died a violent death, do not even know that they are dead and desperately try to communicate with living beings without understanding that they already moved to another dimension.
In your prayer you can inform their guardian angels to help them find out about their dreadful stuckness.
Why do spirits possibly appear when I do this kind of work?
I do not know for sure. It must have to do with manipulating energies.
There are energies on our dimension interwoven with energies in the other dimension, the dimension we enter after death, which is also called the astral dimension.
Once you trigger certain frequencies, they may vibrate at the frequency level that is beyond our dimension.
There may be a phenomenon of magic involved in the work, which you cannot really control. In fact, the same happens when a shaman calls a spirit, with the difference only that the shaman does it intentionally and we do it so to speak by accident. Certain elements in the procedure may be the same. It seems mysterious simply because we lack so much knowledge about the interconnections that exist between the different layers of consciousness.
How can this work effect healing? What is it that changes inside when using this technique?
The energetic flow between the various inner selves is enhanced. In most people, this energetic flow is obstructed since years, to be true, since school times in most cases.
To express this truth in the terminology of Eric Berne, founder of Transactional Analysis (TA), in most people one of the three main inner entities, inner child, inner parent, and inner adult dominates the psyche.
The result is that the overall behavior of the person is rigid, locked in roles, lacking the necessary flexibility to adapt to various life situations.
What happened is that the energy flow between these three main entities became stuck because the person focused with too much bias on one entity only, neglecting to acknowledge and manifest the others.
For example a person who behaves in a way to constantly criticize others, trying to manipulate, rule and dominate them suffers from a hypertrophied inner parent that blocks the two other energies.
When we grow up undisturbed, we develop all three entities in an equal fashion and the energy flow between them is constant and smooth.
However, many of us went through early trauma and had to survive in one way or the other in a hostile environment; for surviving we had to use the strongest of our inner entities, thus blocking the energies of the two others.
The result is neurosis, harmless or pathological forms of rigidity, the tendency either to be too submissive or too dominant in relationships and generally to be largely inapt for communicating with others. This outer lack of communication is simply the result of the lack of inner communication.
That is why unblocking the emotional flow within our psyche has a very positive effect on our life generally and our relationships in particular. It is a form of healing, it heals relationships, it heals our mode of relating to the world so that we can again fully participate in the cosmic flow of energetic exchange that life represents.
Does the I.Q. of a person have an influence on the result of the work with the inner dialogue?
Only indirectly, because the intelligent person will more quickly understand and manage what’s really going on. However, everybody can do it. Everybody will take the time according to the effectiveness of his or her understanding.
Is it a question of emotional maturity to go on quickly with this work? Can children do it, too?
I think that indeed a certain level of emotional maturity is required.
Children can do it from a certain age. Not all three entities are built when the child is born. The inner parent is built only after the seventh year of age, the inner adult in most cases only after adolescence. The inner child is the first entity that develops. So for a child below adolescence, this work does not make sense. Children do something very similar to it when they play.
Have you ever observed that healthy children, when they play, constantly communicate, and with everything?
By so doing they do not only communicate with their teddy bears, their Lego stones, toy cars and doll houses, stones, snails, trees or the sun, they also communicate with themselves. They lead inner dialogue constantly.
Children are the wisest of beings and their natural happiness is not the result of foolishness, but of wisdom. They know how to live and to enjoy life at its fullest!
Can this work positively influence or heal sexual anomalies or perversions, drug addiction or codependence?
Indeed, the most interesting positive effects that are reported from working with the inner dialogue are improvements for people who suffer from high sexual tension that is not easy to release because of unusual or perverse sexual preferences, complicated partner choices or inhibitions, as well as people addicted to hard drugs and those addicted to people.
Generally speaking, it can be said that the person becomes more balanced after the work, more conscious of choices and options to take, and gets more aptitude to direct his or her life in a more differentiated way than before so as to achieve higher satisfaction and pleasure from living.
In music there can be innocence. Music is an ideal media for artistically expressing innocence. I would not say, however, that in every kind of music there is innocence. I personally find that in Rap, House and Hard Rock music there is no innocence, but quite to the contrary, guilt, hatred, lust and repressed or open anger.
So-called classical music or Jazz music does equally not per se express innocence, and in most Romantic classics there often is depression, melancholy, homesickness and regret musically expressed, which are all feelings that defy true innocence.
However, most of the folkloristic music is innocent in character and expression. In New Age music there is a real striving for innocence, a search for the lost paradise of freely flowing love feelings, for expressing care and consideration for nature and all beings.
In the present chapter I propose you a method for working on our inner mind using music: spontaneously composed music. There are two parts in this chapter. In the first part I recount my own personal experience with spontaneous composing, while the second part is a guide for your own spontaneous music experience with the piano or keyboard or any other musical instrument.
My musical compositions, that I publish under my artist name Pierre Frederic are born out of total spontaneity. There was no planning and no real composing involved in their creation. It is quite noteworthy how all this came about.
As a child, I was gifted for music, attracted very much by every piano that was around, silently sitting down and improvising. The very first time I discovered a piano, I was around eight years old.
There was no piano in my home since my mother was not interested in music. She even rejected music as she was highly neurotic and in constant nervous tension that drove all friends away from her.
It was in the house of my mother’s best friend that I met with a piano for the first time in my life. I spontaneously sat down and played. However, the experience ended in my feeling rejected and ridiculed about the ‘noise’ I was told to have produced. I was admonished in the words ‘That is no real piano playing.’ I quickly understood that real play, for them, was perfect robotism.
I needed many years to develop my inspirational music and it was, at the end, only through a total reject of my family and early environment that I eventually could realize it. I had to reject also my piano teachers who did not understand me and tried to condition me into a perfect machine that ‘plays classical.’ I left it all, stopped the lessons and all the rest of it, listened inside and focused.
Why? Why was there this desire to just improvise, to play with the colors of sounds, to mix them freely and to receive those inspirations I could not tell where they came from? Of course, I had studied classical music, baroque music, the German classics, romantic music, impressionism, modern music until Prokofiev, Scriabin and Messiaen, I had mastered many styles in my interpretations. Yet I was never satisfied when I played written music. The last perfection was lacking.
Later on, I was sometimes receiving compliments for my interpretations of Bach, Chopin, Rachmaninov or Scriabin, but I never felt happy about those compliments. I found them worthless simply because I found my play worthless. It was not like Rachmaninov’s, not like Gershwin’s, not like Richter’s, not like Arrau’s, not like Gavrilov’s, not like Argerich’s.
It was not perfect, brilliant and original and therefore, one day, I stopped all of it! However, I continued to receive inspirations and continued playing those imperfect improvisations, and it seems to me that there was some kind of progress in doing that. My play became more perfect without seeking after perfection this and without doing any exercises, and in addition my inspirations became richer, more complex and more interesting.
Then I began to record my music.
That was back in 1994. I know that since early childhood until that year, I have lost thousands of musical inspirations since my capacity to write scores by hand is very limited. I have done some essays when, at eighteen, I had started to take piano lessons and wrote a piano etude that I fixed on paper. Yet I am unable to write complex partitions since I have never learnt this technique.
When I eventually began to record I used audio tape and because of the bad sound quality those recordings could not be used for later production. It was only in 1994 that I could eventually afford to buy a second hand Rhodes piano and an Atari music computer.
I immediately began recording and could not believe my ears when I listened to my first spontaneous compositions. I had no explanation for all of this. It was some kind of mystery for me.
As a matter of fact, I lose memory of a piece quite immediately after having played it, or, in other words, the inspiration goes through me, and is not withheld by my memory interface, a bit like mediums channel messages from the spirit world. It is a form of automatic play in a way.
Thus, when there is no real time digital recording, all is forever lost. Thirty years of inspirations lost, lost forever. Sometimes I am depressed about this fact and the lack of support in my early environment.
Most people, except excellent musicians just react with total indifference to my music. Yet despite those multiple frustrations, I continued because of an inner urge. I had many problems, but there was no help, no care at all from the side of others. The music itself seemed to help and console me in my dreadful loneliness, and I felt relieved from my terrible inner tensions, my urges and desires that I could not reveal to anybody.
What was it then that was so special about my music? Why did it have this kind of healing effect? Why was it installing peace in me?
I could not find an answer. I just continued receiving and recording. The first collection, entitled Planets, ten pieces inspired by planetary energies. In only two evenings this extraordinary music came through. It was my very first collection. After these two evenings, two other collections just streamed through, Arlecchino and Sweet Asia, as if a valve was suddenly opened that for years and years had been closed. There was so much freshness, so much innocence in this music!
Where did this come from? I did not know. I just continued recording and felt depressed that throughout all those former years, I had recorded nothing, silently accepting to lose the best of my inspirations, silently defeating myself, since my childhood, in an ongoing, almost never-ending depression. This innocence could never have been the fruit of depression. So where did it originate from? It remained a mystery to me.
We cannot define innocence as we cannot define love or life. To write about innocence therefore is like walking on eggs and rather difficult. Yet the element of innocence is so obtrusive, so obvious in my music that it cannot be ignored. It seems that innocence is the essential ingredient in my inspirational music.
Then came my Piano Preludes (1995). These twenty-four Preludes are short pieces for piano. What are the musical elements that in these compositions are spontaneously associated with innocence? It is imperfection, first of all, then the sudden change of tempi, the unpredictable endings, the frequent duo-tonal passages, the disruption of the harmonic sequence and daring escape into parallel harmonic realms, the trills and glissandos, the quick dynamic changes, the almost stubborn development of a musical theme until it dies.
Music can hardly been described in words. This is so much the more awkward in my case since all came to life without reflection, without plan and without intention. After all, why should I describe the music that I produce, for the reader, as all is produced in the meantime? However, I am able to look at my creations as if it was the music of another person, and try to analyze it — while all this analysis was absent in the moment of its creation. Yet I think that nonetheless I follow a very old tradition.
Today, people when listening to Bach’s organ compositions believe that this music was composed bit by bit, mathematically, systematically, with the score in front of the composer’s eyes. The truth defies all misconceptions as Bach was very little mathematical in his daily life, he was rather passionate, and emotional, and most of his organ compositions were written down from what his memory had retained from spontaneously improvising music on the Church organ.
When we hear Bach’s music today in its almost superhuman perfection, we think it was played that way the first time! I do not know for sure how Bach played but in some reports by his contemporaries it is noted that he quite often hit wrong notes, when he was excited, but that he did it in such a genial and grandiose way that people thought it was intentional.
We know the same to be true with Beethoven, Liszt and extraordinary pianists such as Arthur Rubinstein or Svjatoslav Richter. I think here especially of Richter’s acclaimed interpretation of Beethoven’s Appassionata sonata during his legendary Carnegie Hall recital — an interpretation he later commented with the words:
— I think I played almost as many wrong notes as I played right ones.
Personally I think that Richter played Liszt’s Dante Sonata in a way that is so unique, so daring and so original that never any other pianist will be able to surpass this — and yet the recital abounds in wrong notes.
However, the effect is so overwhelming that I think people with heart problems should avoid listening to this recital for they might end up with a heart attack. Not because of the wrong notes but because of the right ones and the way Richter brought them out, in a way much like the eruption of a volcano!
Of course, when we play the written text today, we perceive the music, in its logic, as somewhat mathematical or construed.
By the way, this can be said about Mozart as well and yet we know from biographical sources that Mozart was rather spontaneous when composing, and that his musical vision was holistic, not linear-mathematical.
In addition, it is important to realize that it’s not the score, but the rendering of the music herself that gives life to the original composition once it is fixated on paper. As Bach said:
— Every notation is already a transcription.
With more conviction even can we state this fact for the great 19th century pianist Anton Rubinstein and, more so, for Franz Liszt as their life histories are well documented.
Liszt often played wrong notes and once he even ended an upward scale on a wrong note. However, not shy, he played a new scale downward, beginning from the new note, to play the right upwards scale again — for the exhilaration of the auditorium. Needless to add that this ending was not written in the score …
Innocence, then, cannot be composed into a musical structure, it cannot be programmed into one’s life either.
Innocence can only come up spontaneously, without plan or intention. It is part of the silent and invisible mystery of life, an essential part.
My Arlecchino collection is perhaps the most obvious example of innocence expressed in music. Listening to this record, one becomes quickly aware that many of the pieces could be played better, with more perfection, or they could have been composed more straight, more right, and so on. It is exactly this imperfection which makes the charm of the music and which, in some mysterious way, is associated with what is childish and innocent.
There are some key events in my musical history that are worth mentioning here. When I took piano lessons at the conservatory, I was already twenty-one years old, but my piano technique was still very young since, because of the primitive boarding environment I was forced to live in, I could begin to take lessons only at the age of eighteen, when I was allowed to leave the home.
The professor let me play little exercises from Berens, Cramer and Czerny to strengthen my weak left hand. Also, according to my teacher’s own predilections, I played Mozart and Beethoven sonatas without however appreciating this music.
I hated all of this stuff and found it boring, dull and insensitive. I knew I was not ready to play this music and would have preferred to play romantic compositions, Chopin or Scriabin, but my teacher, Alexander Sellier, a typical German, was very bad in interpreting romantic music.
I felt in the wrong place. One day, my teacher, somewhat angry at what he thought was a lack of exercise, exclaimed:
— Peter, you play with the hands of a child and the spirit of a mature pianist! Your musical understanding is great, but your technique is that of a small child!
To make it only worse, my teacher’s four-year old son played the first Beethoven Sonata without problem, a piece I had exercised since two months without being able to play it without mistakes. Discouraged, mad and decided to go a different way, I forever abandoned the lessons at the conservatory.
In Arlecchino, I have given all people who have a straight spirit like this teacher a death blow, as Debussy did it with his Children’s Corner piece Doctor Gradus ad Parnassum.
I transformed weakness into strength, into something absolute and unique, a new style, a style however that cannot be imitated, not even by the best and most experienced pianist. Not even by myself, for immediately after having received a musical inspiration, after having played or improvised it, it is gone. I forget the tunes almost instantaneously since, once I am in this special relaxed state in which I receive my inspirations, one tune follows the other without interruption.
Not many people are able to go such a way as it needs a high amount of self-confidence. In our culture where it is much more accepted that people make themselves down than to liberate their own self creatively, it is rather the exception that a person goes beyond so many borders in order to realize herself and to transform her very weaknesses into strengths. The one single most important quality needed to develop this strength is simplicity!
This element is so important that I have devoted to it a whole chapter in this article. There is a reason why simplicity is going to be closing this guide. The highest wisdom in life is indeed simplicity. It is part of the cyclic structure of the path of life, as we come from simplicity and we go to simplicity, after having gone through many a baroque convolution.
Before I come to write about simplicity, I would like to mention the following steps on your path to innocence. These steps are necessary to be carried out, they are at least very helpful and facilitate the process.
Make a list of all your weaknesses, or what you consider as such.
Give yourself a rest of one or two days before continuing so that your subconscious mind can work on the matter.
Sit down in a relaxed state and then focus on every single of those weaknesses.
Come up spontaneously with an idea of how this weakness can be transformed into strength.
If the idea is not coming up right away, ask yourself ‘What is unique about this characteristic or habit of mine? What is funny or interesting about it?
Is it an essential ingredient of my soul, of by being? What would somebody with high self-esteem do? What can I myself do about it? What is beautiful and noteworthy about it? How would this weakness look like as a strength?
What would I do about it then? What would then be unique about me and beautiful? How could other people benefit from my change?’
When you are ready with this task, try to implement your new view about yourself or your weakness! How to do that? Look, I just continued improvising, for years without end.
Besides, I continued studying baroque, romantic, classical and modern piano as well as Jazz piano, and made the surprising discovery that through my improvising, all my technical problems disappeared by themselves. No more exercises were needed, no more Berens, no more Czerny. Soon I could play Bach, Chopin, Mozart, Beethoven and Liszt or Rachmaninov and my listeners were amazed about my perfection. I never met my teacher again and continued avoiding straight people like him, until this day.
You should do the same and avoid people in whose presence you feel weak and kind of small and unimportant, mediocre and ugly.
This feeling is a signal that these people are not for you to be around, either because they maintain a worldview which opposes yours or they foster negative feelings toward you, or you are just an alien for them. In either case it is better you keep to your own company instead of searching the company of people who ignore and disrespect your divine gift. Being too lenient in so far is in my experience a sure way to miss your ultimate realization, remaining a clown and alien for your immediate environment.
People have a tendency to flatter those who are different. Not many people have the courage to say the truth.
Only in somewhat exceptional circumstances will you know what others really think about you. Then you’ll be surprised in most cases! You’ll be surprised with those honey mouth kind of people, how utterly negative they may perceive you, and you’ll equally be surprised with those you thought had no real estimation for you may appreciate you as a person, although different.
Therefore, don’t care too much about what others might or not think about you. Try to be the best possible copy of yourself!
This requires you being truthful with yourself. Our potential is often hidden in the energy or split personality that is not ready yet for public presentation, that lives a secret life or that even has violent or criminal tendencies. It is this part of you that is the most important and that you should take the most serious, if ever. In that perhaps shame-based identity is hidden your true potential, your true original self, your potential greatness.
If ever, the people you should be around should see in you not your mediocrity, but your greatness, not the child, but the genius in you.
They should encourage you to pursue what you most desire but not dare to realize; they should respect your potential and try to support you to incarnate it in your daily life; they should tend to abhor majoritarian views of any kind and standard forms of behavior, and favor a rather individualized lifestyle.
These extraordinary people may surprise you in seeing already realized in you what you yourself only consider as a shy beginning, hobby or growing new interest. They see in you the greater you. This is, then, the people you should be around with!
Here I would like to finally consider an element on your way to innocence which is known to sages but which, in our time of state-blessed consumerism, has been almost forgotten: it’s the innocence that comes from a simple life.
What is a simple life? Is it a life that is marked by deprivation, a life in the forest or in the desert, a life where basic needs are neglected? Is it a life of retreat, a life that despises civilization, a life without culture and without aesthetic values? Is it a life without books, a form of living that consists in sitting around cross-legged and eating dry bread in the evening? Is it a life of prayer and veneration of some god or deity?
To give the answer straight ahead, no. It is not this, absolutely not.
What then is it?
The way of living with intelligence is to live in abundance but to live a life of simplicity, a simple life. Is that possible?
Simplicity definitely does not form part of our mass civilization. It is an unheard-of value, a non-existing virtue in the present value system.
However, it was and is a virtue in high cultures of the West and the East, like the old Greek, Roman, Egyptian, Persian, Indian, Chinese and Japanese cultures. It is the way of the sage, the philosopher, the man or the woman of wisdom and true knowledge.
Were these men or women always poor, deprived of the essentials of daily living? Not at all. Lao-tzu was not poor yet lived a simple life. Confucius was not poor yet lived a simple life. Socrates was not poor yet he lived a simple life. Kant was not poor yet he lived a simple life. Nostradamus was not poor yet he lived a simple life. Picasso, even after being world-famous and a millionaire continued to live a simple life. Krishnamurti was not poor yet he lived a simple life.
Somehow we are conditioned to believe that knowledge and wisdom are associated with hardship and poverty.
We think of the poor Jesus of Nazareth, or Paracelsus, or some of the saints, we think of some representatives of the Shiva sect in India who live in chastity and utter deprivation, or even the well-known Maharshi who lived in the forest, far away from civilization and the comfort of modern society.
Do we need to deprive ourselves of all to have all? There is logic in this assumption; however it is an extreme position. I remember Anthony Robbins talking in Awaken The Giant Within (1991) about the necessity to change habits, telling the story of a man who took his gun to shoot his car in pieces because he wanted to have a new car.
— It’s a bit extreme, isn’t it, commented Tony, after telling the story, but he stressed that we need to carry out an act, a visible act, in order to signal to the universe that we are ready to change.
This is, says he, how we prepare the energy that will attract the new we would like to realize in our life.
Buddha left his wife and children, riches and abundance to live like a sannyasin, a traveling monk who owns but the set of clothes he wears on his body. However, after the seven years he needed for enlightenment, Buddha stated that the outset of his path was a big mistake and that it was right to keep the middle way and to avoid extreme positions. Buddha, stating this, joined the old school of Taoist teachers who have found this truth 4500 years before him!
We can learn directly from Taoism, the oldest of religions, and do not need to go the complicated way of Buddhism. Taoism which comes from China has more affinity with Western values and lifestyle than Buddhism with its somewhat world-denying attitude that is so typically Indian.
To attain simplicity does not mean to abandon civilization or to defy the completeness that an emotionally, sexually and materially fulfilled life can bring.
Simplicity is an inner attitude and I would even say that one who lives in abundance yet can still maintain a simple lifestyle has a higher virtue than another who can live a simple life only because he abandoned all forms of civilization and runs around like a street beggar or hippie.
In simplicity there is innocence, a spontaneous innocence that cannot be sought after, that cannot be captured or cultivated and that is not even conscious.
Simplicity as an inner attitude is not demonstrated as a virtue, it is not taken to the stage, it is not put under the spotlight. It is not even shared with others.
The simple man would not complain about one who wastes or one who is caught in the trap of his own complicated visions and objectives. He would simply accept them, as he accepts life itself — without making a fuss about it.
The simple man or woman is not capricious, nor moralistic. There is no good or bad in being simple. There is no moral value connected to it, as moral values are not a measure for the simple human being. They have no value at all in simplicity. They are more fitting in the artificial convoluted and hypocrite life of highly complicated people.
Krishnamurti talked quite a bit about simplicity. He repeatedly said that simplicity can go along with abundance and that depriving oneself to attain simplicity was a forceful means that could not reach its end.
Similarly, Mantak Chia, a teacher of Tao Yoga in the West, maintains that the truly enlightened man does not need to retire from humanity or civilization to live a balanced, wistful life.
In the contrary, he said it was much more difficult and needed much more self-discipline to live simply and honestly within abundance and an imperfect world. After all, it is the inner attitude which makes the difference, not the outside standard of living.
If it is not to reach on an outside level, what do we have to do about it? We have to build this inner attitude of simplicity rather than force changes on the outside level. You do not need to sell your villa nor your car for doing this. You do not need to do Zen meditation either, nor take Yoga lessons. You do not need to do anything! What about beginning from the negative side? What about not doing certain things you have done before?
Here is a little list of things you can skip doing for a while for exercise. Please note that this exercise still is a strategy on the outside level, while true change must happen inside of you, at your attitude level. It is difficult to build an attitude, and it needs time. These exercises are just preliminary measures to reach this long-term goal.
— When you want to shout next time at your partner or child, stop and take a deep breath. Think of the last moment when you embraced them and what you felt in that moment;
— When at a party, you talk negatively about your family or your boss, stop and take a deep breath. Think of how you would possibly behave in the same position and how you would act more perfectly;
— When the next time you overcharge your plate because the buffet is just so big, think of how beautiful it would look if you took the same portion in two times. There is namely a good chance that you will skip the second portion after having eaten the first half;
— When the next time you want to empty a bottle of beer, think of a day or moment when you were short of this drink and how good it tasted when you had only a little quantity of it left. Become aware that now, while you have plenty of it, the taste seems to be much more ordinary;
— When you have prepared a dinner for you and/or for your family and suddenly friends drop in, try not to act as last time when you gave them a short nervous moment in the hall to excuse yourself for dinner, but invite them and enjoy sharing the food with them;
— When people come up with half-truths, media gossip or lies as we discussed them in the first subchapter, try not to jump to any conclusion nor defense, nor any correction or better knowledge, but just listen attentively to them! And see what happens.
The result may be amazing. In most cases what happens is that the other questions what they just loudly presented and begins to tear it up bit by bit until they maintain almost the opposite position. Then there is little to do to sustain that argument with a small amount of precise information, and you won the game.
If you do it the other way around, you push the other into a defensive position and your opinions are likely to clash. This can destroy the best friendship.
There are some other guidelines for simplicity that I would like to share with you. I learnt them partly through practicing Zen meditation, partly from books, partly from my own life experience. Perhaps the most essential ones came during meditation. In my studies of Japanese interior design and Chinese Feng Shui, these intuitions were confirmed.
Simplicity is a state of mind. The simple person lives without unnecessary stuff, in an uncluttered environment that is clean, functional, and aesthetically sound. This does not mean to live in luxury.
The Bible was falsified by the Church.
All what the first Christians or Essenes had taught, especially their teachings about reincarnation, vegetarianism and water purification rituals, were traced out of the Bible.
The Church wanted people to believe that there was only one life. You can kill and eat pigs if you like, and run around dirty, but if or not you are going to Heaven or to Hell was going to be in the hands of the Church’s unique judges: the priests. This blow to human dignity assured the Church the total power over people and made the world ready for one of the most horrible and bloody holocausts that humanity has seen over the course of human history.
In our striving for innocence we must stop a moment to consider one of the greatest teachings that humanity has seen in this respect: it is the teaching of the Essenes. These people were remarkable!
They were initiated in the mysteries of life and knew many secrets about living a long life, living in harmony with the universe and mother earth, healing by the use of plants, conceiving and bringing to birth healthy and joyful children, maintaining long-term friendships, cleansing the past and the energies in the house, and even the earth.
The Essene wisdom was fed by Caucasian sources, by sources from India, Persia and China. Many of the recipes for a healthy happy lifestyle that the Essenes teach, can be found, much earlier, in the teachings of the Taoist sages such as Lao-tzu. It can also be found in the Zoroaster religion of ancient Persia, in the Vedic scriptures of ancient India as well as in the old Minoan Civilization from Crete.
The fundamental element in Essene teaching is that life is a unity.
To live healthily, this teaching says, you cannot just bring order to one element of your life, for example your eating habits — and forget about the rest. If you act that way, you will never make it to lead a really happy and fulfilled life.
The Essene teaching says that you have to begin to change all at once, but that you must proceed step by step, slowly and with much consideration for the detail and the daily follow-up of your new principles. For example, you must begin changing the following habits at once and at the same time:
- Your eating habits;
- Your sleeping habits;
- Your sexual habits;
- Your way to evacuate;
- Your purification and bathing habits;
- Your habits to arrange house and garden;
- Your way to deal with your parents;
- Your way to deal with your partner;
- Your way to deal with your children;
- Your way to heal yourself;
- Your way to pray or worship or meditate;
- Your way to work or to do business;
- Your way to tackle financial problems;
- Your way to maintain order;
- Your way to maintain cleanliness;
- Your way to educate your children;
- Your way to receive others in your house;
- Your way to talk about yourself;
- Your way to talk about others;
- Your way to do welfare for others;
- Your way to prepare for old age.
The Essene teaching says that if you forget to arrange about one of those habits, you better don’t begin at all because you will not be able to achieve wholeness in your life since all these ways of behaving are parts of one single inseparable life. It says that the wise man likes to build good habits, regarding all those facets of life, and to develop those habits in a positive way — and daily. In daily little steps that are feasible. Not in big gargantuan tasks and marathons that exhaust our energies.
The Essene teaching is wise before all because of its deep knowledge of the human way. It is a very practical teaching therefore, a down-to-earth teaching if I may say so. It is not theory, and for everyone who puts it in practice, it will become obvious after a short while of serious practice that this really works!
The primary virtue, following Essene teaching, that a human being should possess is innocence. Innocence not as an idea, but the result of a virtuous life.
A virtuous life, then, is not a life regulated by moralistic rules, but a healthy balanced life, a life that is in harmony with our individual destiny and inspired by peace, love, consideration and respect for all living. It was not allowed for Essenes to kill or to eat meat, fish or eggs. The alimentary rules were strictly vegetarian; further did the Essenes hardly cook any food. The usual way to eat food was to eat it raw, in its original state.
In an interesting study conducted some years ago, subtle vibrations in the human body were measured using a lie detector, which is an instrument that detects the slightest changes in body temperature and blood pressure.
People were simply asked to eat certain kinds of food. At the end of the experiment, the researchers found the most striking difference not in what they had expected, but in the difference that consisted in cooked food, on one hand, and raw uncooked food, on the other. The detector reacted in a relaxed harmonious way when people were eating salads and raw food, all that was uncooked. However, the reaction of the device was almost violent when people were asked to eat cooked meat, hot sauces and all the stuff we usually like to eat in our culture, i.e. hot dishes.
The research was widely published in the United States and triggered some controversial media discussion. The Japanese were cited, their successes in cancer healing using to prescribe quantities of sea weed and raw fish (sushi).
It may be difficult to follow such a strict diet. I have tried it during five years and it was not difficult for me. However, I must admit that my health during that time was not better than at times I was eating meat. I attracted colds, too, during this time, and my liver and kidney functions were not entirely perfect.
However, it is also true that never before and after could I sit for such long hours of meditation and feel such inner peace and joy than during those years.
Also my creativity level was very high during this time.
However, and despite this positive personal experience, I find it wrong to become fanatic about those things. We must not forget that rituals, as important as they are in our lives, still are devices. They are not truth itself. They are only helpers, facilitators.
I have met, on the other hand, people who live in high alignment with nature and the universe and eat meat and fish, drink their bottle of wine, smoke and love sex with many partners, yet respect all beings. I am therefore a little careful about these things and do not judge.
Your Way to Innocence is very individual and only you can know which is the appropriate way for you. My way is very unlikely the way for you.
Only you can find that right way for yourself, considering my book as a mere list of suggestions. I can help you only in so far as I can show you options and alternatives and possible ways. From this inspiration you have to forge your own unique way to innocence!
This guide has given you guidelines about how to achieve innocence in your life. Yet the question you may have carried along since you began reading this first part of the book might be something like But is innocence really a value, and if yes, of what value is it for me?
For some of you, innocence may seem an unnecessary asset on your path of life, or something reserved for children or women. The connotations you bear along with this myth of manhood, with maleness, manliness and the roles associated with these connotations are of primary importance in your inquiry about innocence as a value for men.
These connotations may interfere with a concept of innocence as, being myself a man, I have presented in this study. Therefore, it is necessary that you check out your value system after you have done the work proposed in this book. It might well be that some of your former values do not fit any more into your new and expanded worldview.
For example, manliness may have been a foremost value for you before; and now you may consider it of secondary importance while you consider innocence being one of your most important values. This means implicitly that your image of a typical man may equally have changed on the way. While formerly, you would not have added innocence to the positive characteristics of a man, you might do so now. Or you might not.
This is entirely up to you; only bear in mind that you should by now be more conscious of the entire set of your personal values or soul values.
Points to Ponder
- In the first part of a larger guide on recovering and healing your inner child, I outlined a program for drastic behavior change that ideally results in a state of being that I call innocence.
- I have been explicit in this article that when I talk about innocence, I do not convey what in our sentimental and hypocrite culture is usually understood under this term. Innocence is not a form of smiling childish ignorance, nor is it what fundamentalist Christians tend to believe is ‘faith.’ While there is well innocence involved in faith, this is not all there is when we talk about innocence, or in other words, innocence is more than faith.
- Innocence, in fact, is a state of deep inner knowledge. This knowledge is simply there, it doesn’t need to be acquired. It’s a knowledge that manifests through the inner unity with universal intelligence that the innocent person maintains. In this primordial sense, small children are truly innocent; they possess this knowledge while they would not for the most part be able to verbalize it. In fact, they don’t need to verbalize it. Knowledge is not dependent on the fact that it can be put in our language code; it is there also when we are mute, or when we can express knowledge only through nonverbal dialogue, or through art, or music.
- In other words, knowledge is not primarily something that needs to be exchanged; it is first of all a means to intelligently comprehend the world. In this sense, knowledge is power, for when I understand more of life and the world, I can handle my own life better. I may also, in that case, have an advantage over others, who are in a similar personal situation but do not have this knowledge. So that means knowledge is a gift of life.
- Our modern society does not concede children the capacity to have true knowledge; this is not only the logical result of our society’s skeptical attitude toward the use of intuition as a form of primal intelligence, but also for power reasons. A society that needs children as important consumers has no interest to concede them too much power; in the contrary, it has an interest to deprive them of power, as much as possible.
- Sensual and sexual experience boosts knowledge about life, other people and self; it’s a primary tool for acquiring real knowledge about life. It also helps for building personal identity and self-worth. Hence, as children are not allowed to have that level of power and understanding, through erotic knowledge, they are logically kept from being erotic, actively or passively. Both ways of children being erotical are declared as misplaced, abusive, and as a result are socially despised, if not demonized.
- However, I also clearly show in this article that children are not innocent in the sense our ignorant and double-tongued culture holds them to be; they are not innocent in the sense of being naive, of being ‘totally vulnerable,’ of being completely defenseless. These are in fact projections that patriarchal society and culture needs to cherish as a group fantasy, so that the control system remains in place.
- The control system in a society that is mainly based upon acquisition, and materialistic values must control the child because the child is the most important person in the ring! The child is actually the angular stone in the whole system, which is exactly why child sexuality is tabooed in our culture, and why children, when they are sexual, are demonized and discarded as ‘sex offenders,’ just as adults. While they are hypocritely considered as being ‘too vulnerable’ to have an opinion and to have a basic amount of personal power, when it’s about sex, that’s to say the expression of their body, they are considered as irresponsible, powerless and ‘easy-to-manipulate,’ if not simply ‘passive victims.’
- Of course, the consumer culture needs children to be that way, it needs them to be passive and defenseless, so that the system works; that is why it puts these points up like truths, and repeats them endlessly and intensely so that people, even smart people, begin to believe in them. And then, once they believe these lies, they really lose their primary innocence and are like the majority, beasts, full of fear, guilt, mischief, lies and violence.
- A good example for the absolutely insane way our society treats children and educates them is so-called sex education. While on one hand, parents and educators are strongly encouraged to keep their children from being actively sexual, while in modern circles self-satisfaction, that is, autoerotic activities of children may be tolerated, children are taught meticulous details about bodily functions and details of procreation that have no connection at all with their emotional life. This is not only schizoid as an educational approach, it’s also harmful in that it boosts children’s intellectual knowledge without rooting this knowledge in their emotional comprehension of life. This is a recipe for insanity, and research has shown that it doesn’t work and confuses children more than all.
- In addition, as already Wilhelm Reich and later Françoise Dolto affirmed, sex education always comes too late. In a permissive environment, no sex education is needed anyway because children are naturally self-explorative, and they are equally sexually explorative in their early friendships, be it with children or adults — if this moron society wants to know about that or not, it doesn’t change the fact. Children are sexually ‘innocent’ only in so far as they are kept from being knowledgeable in sexual matters. Thus, the whole business of sex education is that, a business, another money-making device that serves the industry, in that case the psychological and psychiatric establishment — and not children.
- On your way to innocence, you need to do two essential things. The first thing is to listen to the children around you, and to talk true language with them. The second thing is to get in touch with your inner child and enter a dialogue with all your inner entities or energies. This will reveal you many striking insights that you will never gain when you don’t do such kind of work.
- It’s not easy to decondition yourself; conditioning is something very subtle, especially in our modern democratic societies where it’s not, as before, brutal force or religious or political oppression that molds people, and their opinions, but industrially produced and psychologically refined publicity. Publicity is the real politics in our modern societies. It serves many goals beyond just selling products. It has a conditioning function and it serves ultimately to keep the cardhouse up.
- Without publicity, the present system wouldn’t run, it would simply crash because naturally, human beings are much more diverse, and they have much more diverse intentions and desires as this is displayed and put up in our regular media world, which is the riverbed for publicity to flow.
- But to get to looking over the fence, it’s not enough to just boycott television, ingest psychedelics or to become a vegetarian, or to read esoteric books. There are many interested in UFOs today, but that alone will not lead them to innocence and truth, their own truth. It’s our inner child that shows us the way to our own truth, it’s our inner angel, our most precious treasure.
- You do not need any drugs, or any escapist pathways to get linked back to your true self; true religio is to regain your innocence, which means to get in touch with your own inner angel and guide. When you escape through entertainment or drugs, you get away from yourself, while the way to truth is to get more in touch with yourself, namely by being every day more of yourself.
- It also requires a certain purity in what you do, talk and with whom you relate. It requires a certain discrimination in all you think, talk and do, a certain passive observation of your entire behavior. This is not self-censoring, as some call it today, because there is no judgment involved here, and no intentionality. Purity is a way of being that avoids harm, doing harm to oneself and others, and the world, the ecology, our environment. So purity is really innocence as the word innocence literally means ‘doing no harm.’
- And involved in this quest for purity is to be naturally modest in all you do, and how you do it, by avoiding to overreact, to overeat, to overindulge in pleasures, by avoiding to talk gossip, to dissipate your vital energy through mean actions or through shallow entertainment.
- Behold, this modesty I am talking about here is not a command put up by moralism, and it’s not something you can do intentionally. It’s rather something that comes up spontaneously. When you are on the track for innocence, you will see that certain things you did before are no more appealing to you, and you just drop them. It happened to me that way. I could drop eating meat as I suddenly disliked the taste, as my body became hot and I felt numb in my head, things I had not sensed before I first started out with my inner child work.
- You will see then that keeping a balance in all is the highest wisdom in life, and keeps you healthy and strong as well. Keeping a balance also means to drop extremist opinions and hatred of all kinds, to drop anger as a habit — while it’s good and normal to be angry at times.
- Anger as a habit is not just being angry, when there is a reason for being angry. Anger as a habit is what is called resentment, a form of hatred that is built over years as a result of traumatic experiences in childhood, adolescence or young adulthood. It may have been abuse or one may have been forced to fight in a war, and kill others against one’s conscience, or it may have been a natural disaster or sudden death of family members. All trauma can be healed, but this healing requires to stop escaping from one’s own self, to stop escaping into entertainment and the obsessional pursuit of pleasure.
- With anger as a habit it’s just as with pleasure as a habit. While pleasure is good and necessary, and healthy, when it becomes an obsessional pursuit, it does harm to self and others. How to recognize if it’s an obsession? Obsessional behavior is marked by three factors, it’s extreme and it’s repetitive, and it’s an addiction. So typically, when one doesn’t follow up to it, symptoms of addiction show up, such as fever, insomnia, restlessness, explosive sexual urges, migraines, psoriasis, ulcers, etc.
- When you have healed your inner child, when you are living with innocence, you are not suffering from obsessions anymore, and you don’t even need to do anything about them. They will drop off, they will leave you as a ghost leaves the haunted house — and you are free forever. All obsessions are psychologically to be qualified as forms of neurosis, and neurosis is simply a blockage of the emotional flow.
- When you are living with innocence and your life is balanced, your emotional flow will be balanced as well, and to repeat it, there is no need to do anything about it. When you follow the guidelines I give in this article, and do the work, the results will be yours, and they will be obvious, so obvious that all the people you know will give you feedback about your ‘tremendous change.’